I bought plane tickets for the whole family, but at the airport my daughter-in-law gently told me they had given my seat to her own mother because the kids feel “closer to her,” and my son quietly agreed. I froze for a moment, then smiled and walked away without raising my voice. One minute later, after I’d calmed myself, I changed the entire $47,000 Hawaii vacation with a single polite phone call and quietly rearranged my $5.8 million estate in a way no one expected. What hurt wasn’t just the w